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boston · 01-10-2007, 05:00 AM

Hi,

I haven't posted for a while. I need some help, if someone can answer:

I go to Harvard Univ, right now is finals week. I am having tons of trouble with self discipline...I've started smoking again (I used to in high school), and I spend money VERY carelessly these days. I've never been like this, so I really need to find a source to give me more discipline. I'm trying on my own...religion hasn't helped, since I literally can't convince myself that a God exists. I've read William James, Covey, Pavlina, Seligman, psychological textbooks, Marcus Aurelius...I've gone through many things. Problem is, now all I do all day is read self-help. I will spend a day reading four or five psychology or self-help books, and I can't focus on the task at hand.

Some external reasons are that my father won't stop treating me like a child, so I'm going through lots of angst toward him...again, I can't control my anger these days, I'm trying to. He calls three times a day, and talks to me like I'm a child, asking me if I eat my vegetables and sleep enough. I'm twenty-one, for God's sake.

Also, I hate my roommates. One of them seriously has problems--he has all these repressed emotions and is always on the verge of snapping...he complains NONSTOP (I'm complaining right now, but I don't complain to everyone). My other roommates are pretty strange too, and I don't get along with them.

I don't have much of an outside crowd either. I'm pretty normal, I used to be normal in high school...I've read all these books on social skills these days: How to be Cooler | Free advice to help shy, lonely, hard-up guys be cooler, Art of Seduction, 48 Laws, PUA, EVERYTHING...I think my problem is something deeper. Plus, the books just make me more nervous in public.

any suggestions?

01-10-2007, 05:00 AM	#1 (permalink)
boston Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 10	Discipline Hi, I haven't posted for a while. I need some help, if someone can answer: I go to Harvard Univ, right now is finals week. I am having tons of trouble with self discipline...I've started smoking again (I used to in high school), and I spend money VERY carelessly these days. I've never been like this, so I really need to find a source to give me more discipline. I'm trying on my own...religion hasn't helped, since I literally can't convince myself that a God exists. I've read William James, Covey, Pavlina, Seligman, psychological textbooks, Marcus Aurelius...I've gone through many things. Problem is, now all I do all day is read self-help. I will spend a day reading four or five psychology or self-help books, and I can't focus on the task at hand. Some external reasons are that my father won't stop treating me like a child, so I'm going through lots of angst toward him...again, I can't control my anger these days, I'm trying to. He calls three times a day, and talks to me like I'm a child, asking me if I eat my vegetables and sleep enough. I'm twenty-one, for God's sake. Also, I hate my roommates. One of them seriously has problems--he has all these repressed emotions and is always on the verge of snapping...he complains NONSTOP (I'm complaining right now, but I don't complain to everyone). My other roommates are pretty strange too, and I don't get along with them. I don't have much of an outside crowd either. I'm pretty normal, I used to be normal in high school...I've read all these books on social skills these days: How to be Cooler \| Free advice to help shy, lonely, hard-up guys be cooler, Art of Seduction, 48 Laws, PUA, EVERYTHING...I think my problem is something deeper. Plus, the books just make me more nervous in public. any suggestions?