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I am not attractive or rich enough to get a bunch of disposable one-night stands, where I can get my sexual satisfaction and not have to worry about those women not wanting to ever see me again because of my small penis.

Two thoughts:

Some of the guys I see getting the one night stands aren't what I would call "attractive" by general standards. Attitude and personality is what gets you the girl.

Also, you have to realize that if you're insecure about this and you hook up with a girl who only wants cheap sex, she can still reject you the moment she sees you naked.

In my early 20s I was in a successful rock band, so getting those one-night stands was no problem.

You probably also hooked up with young girls who weren't a little more free with their sexuality, perhaps? (in other words, it may not have been the rock band but also the age/youth factor)

Now at 37 I am just a regular guy with a regular job. Getting relatively attractive women to sleep with me is becoming more and more difficult, and sometimes after chasing them for months at a time, after one or two sexual encounters, they disappear from my life forever.

I am a female. I have not met you nor so I know what you look like. The vibe I'm getting from you so far is one of insecurity, failure, and maybe a little discouraged/depressed. IMO that drives women away. The penis size is just the excuse.

You sound like a nice person, probably caring, intelligent, stable, and trustworthy. You sound like a great guy, definitely worth dating, if we can just get you past this issue. I bet you'd make a wonderful boyfriend!

I dated my last girlfriend for about a year, after chasing her for a year before that. She dumped me about a month ago and in a moment of anger told me that she felt nothing when we had sex. We didn't have sex very often, but she pretty much told me she had been faking her pleasure the entire time. That hurt a lot. I had never felt so rejected in my life.

If she thinks the only thing you can feel when having sex is penis inches, she's not only shallow, she just doesn't understand what sex should be.

Sex is all about the connection. It's about satisfying the other person. It's a sharing of intimacy & trust. The physical stuff is just a detail and can be helped with oral, manual, vibrators, whatever.

Now I just want to find a good woman and settle down, but it seems that society puts a lot of emphasis on penis size.

I'd rather date an honest guy with a 3" penis who makes me feel loved than a player with a 13" penis who is lazy and dishonest. You're filling the role of BOYFRIEND not penis. There's so much more more to that role.

For example, learn how to cook & pamper your woman with gourmet meals. Or learn to give really great massages. Or become a better listener so you are more in tune with her both emotionally & sexually.

I have a lot of sexual energy, but without the proper equipment, it does me no good. Giving oral can only get you so far. Women want to feel a big man inside of them (or at least that's what I'm told).

I'm a 36 yr old woman, also with lots of sexual energy. Good oral *can* be very satisfying. So can good kissing, affection, massage/touch, a little cuddling afterwards, saying the right things, and generally not being repressed or hung-up on something.

What good is a 12" penis if a guy doesn't know how to use it??? I've been there, both with the under-3" and the 12"+ ends of the spectrum, and I can tell you firsthand that it's not what you have but it's how you use it.