[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by carenkh

You talk about your body like a separate entity, and I can see that - but it's YOU, too. You ARE here.

You're so right, Caren! It's true that I tend to see my body as something else. It's not me.

And this is true for the fat, too. I see the fat as not being me, and not my body either. It's something alien to us. I can see/guess what my body looks like underneath the fat and I always think I must free it. It's like the fat is a prison, not a part of me.

I once read a book called "The anti-diet book". The author says that many overweight women see the fat as not being themselves. Her strategy is to analyze what the fat is good for (protection, strength, warmth, etc), then to incorporate these qualities into who I am, and to accept the fat as being me, too. And then, when the fat me is one instead of two, she says I'll be free to lose it because I won't need it anymore. Isn't that pretty interesting?

Originally Posted by Dharma

Outstanding Rose! You hit the nail right on the head. It is our thoughts about reality that cause us stress and unhappiness.

That's clear!

I've recommended this many times on this forum -- it's so simple, and works really well -- Byron Katie's The Work.

Hell yes! The funny thing is, I know The Work and have used it for other things, but I never thought of using it for my weight problem!

Thank you so much Dharma, and for the videos too. I'll watch them and do some Work.

Originally Posted by Andrew Gubb

If I kiss you, will I be kissing your spirit?

You made me grin so much!

Originally Posted by rawxstasy

I think you need to go deeply inside yourself, weight loss isn't just physical work.

I agree with you. Thank you for sharing your experience, it's very valuable for me to hear about others who managed to lose weight and how they did it. I'll do some journaling and introspection work. Love.