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Originally Posted by Dan.Linehan  I haven't read all the replies in this thread.
However, I think this is a fair assessment of how many men feel with our current laws. |
You know, honestly my first reaction to that was one of defensiveness. I thought to reply, "yes, but it's not just women who do shady things to their partners...what about all the guys who do x, y, z?!" And that more as a reaction to the replies to that comment as the comment itself was not venemous. In fact it was quite straightforward.
And then something very simple, something I should have known all along, hit me: right now we are talking about what it's like for men in this situation. That doesn't preclude recognizing that men also do horrible things to women and get away with it. But to always counter a man's concerns or outrage at a situation like this with what it's like for women, with what men do that's just as bad or worse, is to minimize this very real struggle that men face.
I feel like I finally "get it." I would agree that laws need to be changed. I think we had some good ideas at the beginning of the thread for what would be just, although they do rely heavily on people taking responsibility for themselves.
I was watching Chappelle's Show this weekend...anyone seen the episode with "The Love Contract"...made me think fondly of this thread.