GUILT!!!
the games that parents play!
ns123 really like how youre handling it all.
being the BIG man/woman in the situ shud help.because THEY are like being kids!
everytime me mum starts with the guilt trip, in my mind i givem the what i call "kind eyes"
i see her as a child with her own unresolved issues.her fear and guilt as a parent 'that theres sumpin she din do right' appreciate the pain that her mistaken belief of 'i can make it alright for my child' causes her.
mums are just human afterall.NOT a god! not infallible! they musta done some pretty dumb stuff themselves while growing up.
its taken a lot of talking and connecting on an adult -adult level.not parent- child level to have it finally coming together.
tho she does stick me with her infallible pokes once in a while!
and i catch myself before i go down the 'mum knows best' street.
the key words?
BIG MAN and KIND EYES