Originally Posted by rawxstasy
I saw your picture, You are very beautiful! I have been through a similar situation as you. I always thought other people were thinking I"m weird etc. I think maybe girls can sense your lack of confidence in yourself and respond to that. The other thing I was thinking of, girls are bitchy and backbiting, it's going to be difficult to find girls who don't talk about others behind their back esp. at 24 yrs old. You are attractive and there's jealously also involved. I'm 43 years old and I still get these jealous looks and bitchy comments behind my back. It's also easier for me to have male friends than women. I just don't worry that much about it. I am very solitary and I enjoy that. If you believe in law of attraction put out to the universe to send someone your way who could be a friend.
On a side note - My daughter just turned 21 and she had a hard time making girl friends also until just recently. It will get better.
Thanks for taking the time to post and your empathy.
I admit that a few girls who were overweight made those comments and I am certain that jealousy was a factor in their remarks. But, my mom would tell me "oh they are just jealous" but that didnt help! It would have been nice if they complimented me or something instead of insults. But it only fed into my already low self esteem and distrust of others.
I have managed to make girl friends in college but now that I am out, I still struggle with initiating friendships with women because of my fear that I am unlikeable.
I believe my self-confidence will always be something that I will work on all my life. But I just want to continue to work on it and not be satisfied with my self-doubts.
Glad to hear your daughter is making more female friends!