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Old 02-13-2009, 08:09 AM   #6 (permalink)
Ralph
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Originally Posted by dulaney0330 View Post
Typical immature behavior, I understand. But at 24 years of age, I have difficulty maintaining relationships with women. I have this self-protective defense system and I am always feeling that other women do not like me. I am self-conscious and because of my past experiences I feel like I am "too weird" and "too shy" to be friends.

I have tried cognitive therapy on myself but it falls short. I have tried, " well you are not a mind reader so you do not know if they dont like you." But in the past, girls would act like they did to my face and then behind my back make fun of me.

The basic feeling of inferiority has been rooted by these past experiences and I am unsure how to unweave it. Therapy encouraged growth and it had uncovered the reasons for the teasing but never any resolve.

Any suggestions? Anyone relate?
What you didn't mention is what you truly want. What is a clear outcome that you are after? What is it you want to create in your life? What kind of person do you want to be?

Please describe that in detail and we might think of something

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