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Originally Posted by Realization Seeker  The following sentence of yours is really injustice  :
"My feeling is that you are very resistant to making an internal adjustment"
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Could you please expose some details of Surrender and Acceptance in regard to my situation?... |
It is as if you can only hear bits and pieces of what is being said to you in this thread. For instance, of all the things that I've said to you here, the thing you hear loudest is an injustice. Surrender and Acceptance, letting things in, might involve really generously listening to what people have to say to you, and being committed to hearing and accepting what you get.
For instance, noticing that you immediately feel what I said
about what I feel is injustice. As if it means something about you. Notice that having that button pushed filtered out everything else I had to say to you, and that also appears to have happened with what others have said to you here. My guess is that you probably did this with your ex-love, too -- that your ex didn't feel heard the way (s)he wanted to be heard -- resisted, in other words.
Surrender and Acceptance might involve taking on: "Hmm, let me look boldly for where what this person is saying actually DOES live inside me." It might take some real courage to do this, because your first instinct might be to say, "oh, no, no, no, I'm really quite flexible and not at all controlling."
You might want to practice listening to us here from a position of being willing to try on our perspectives, and see how things look from there, minus resistance. Then try on some new frames for how your ex might look at things, and see what new information is available to you.
Loosen up, and practice letting go of your resistance.