Hmm. That's interesting. I dunno if we are unbiased, precisely because you're the one telling the story. As long as you're a reasonable person, you will have a view of the situation that's pretty reasonable but essentially biased. I no longer believe my own stories and wait to hear another person's perspective. Perhaps your parents are feeling unloved adn unappreciated, so they show that in these little ways. Try to really, really undrestand them in a reasonable way. People don't try to really, really understand others, because the more understand person, the more you may be willing ot accept their point of view. But you can indeed pull back and say taht I understand that, but I still prefer things my way. So let's try:
You're dealing with kids and I"m sure you're trying to instill them with values. Whether the child agrees with those values or not being a different issue, imagine what would happen if you tried and the child ignored those values, and, in fact, turned around to spit them in your face with their actions, to the detriment of the child.
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