peace, i would ask the first question first, what is love? because u have good times and ur feelings are hightened , does not mean u love, it means u have a like and a caring for her, to whatever degree, however , when we are in love we have a aim an purpose, and that is to make a reality that is conducive to nurturing that relationship. Since the relationship is in a reality, that acts against relationship than your focus should be on, help changing the reality.
So that, would suggest the drinking is out, it alters your state of mind, that means evaluating who your hanging out with, not that your friends can't remain ur friends but their ideas maybe different so your friends from a distance, and maybe in time they will see the value of your ways. Cheating, says that the concept of love is in question, and u must anwser that before ever getting into a relationship, for what we know is what we do, to protect what we are trying to build.
I would suggest you give her the option of choice, as you had the option of choice in what u chose, that is fair, then their is no lying , and dishonesty, but respect for choice.
LOVE IS A GUN
LOVE is the most precious force that you have. Because when you offer your love, whomever you offer it to, can take advantage of you by your love. Your love becomes the vehicle of your enslavement, your manipulation or your destruction. You dont give love to everything or everyone. Note that using the word [
B](falling) in love, indicates a drop, become lower, collapse, a descent. [/B]
peace
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Originally Posted by boston123  This is my first post on this forum. I guess I am really searching for answers which leads me to this post.
I have been dating someone for almost 2 years now. We both are young, I recently graduated college, she is still finishing up and will be graduating in the near future. Our relationship has been unreal! I love this girl more than words and feel undeserving of her. She has been a friend and a soulmate to me. Recently I was out (I dont normally go out, but was hanging with friends I hadnt seen in a long time.) got to drinking. I ended up drinking too much and ended up doing something with someone else that will haunt me for a very long time.
Now, I have asked a family member advice about the situation and the advice was not to tell her. This person stated that by telling her your only dumping your guilt on to her.... the guilt is killing me. I love this girl so much, I want to so bad have a honest loving relationship, but by not telling her I am not being completely honest. I got the same advice from a couple friends... I guess I just wish I hadnt done something so ridiculous. I have been afraid of losing this girl ever since we started dating. Now that I did this... I could or will jeopordize my relationship that I cherish so much!!
Without kicking a dog while its down, does anyone have any insight? Please, any advice would be helpful. I dont want to lose this girl!
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