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Originally Posted by wolfgang  Do you think she might find out? How would that go down if she hears it from someone else compared to from you? Keeping someone in the dark about mistakes is a hard path that could strain the relationship with a secret stress that might cause a demise anyway because of that stress. And also not telling lets one think one can get away with things - may actually reinforce a part of you that will think what you did was OK and behaviourly more apt to repeat it. |
Yeah agree. It takes 100 more lies to cover the first lie. Unless it will never be found out, otherwise, honesty is still the best policy.
But keeping such a secret can be a burden to carry. Unless he's like what you say Wolfang that he finds the behaviour ok due to the fact that he's drunk, which also means he's more apt to repeat it. But looking from what he said, it doesn't seems to be so.
I believe we should give him the benefit of the doubt. If he's feeling so ok with it, he won't be posting this thread, will he?