[QUOTE=LordSappington;303862]I don't see how that is all feasible. People don't act naturally when they know they are being filmed.[quote]
Do it anyway, whether you think it'd work or not. Let reality tell you whether it worked. And you'll have to excuse me for saying this: what you think is feasible isn't working, so best throw out your assumptions and really question them and see what comes up.
After the camera's been there a while, people start to relax, especially if it's just a small one. It's different for different people, some people take a long time and some people just forget about it quickly. You'd wanna do this with someone who's confident, as they tend to warm up quicker. I speak from experience, I'm a cameraman. Keep the camera trained on yourself. Even if you don't post the video, you'll find something useful in watching yourself and it'll give you a glimpse in how others see you and see if you notice what you might be doing. If you wait like a week or two, you may find something that you said sounded jsut weird, but it woulda sound normal in your head cause you were in your head.
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I tried that three times with three different people. One said she could help me but then referred me somewhere else because she got a different job. The new guy felt like all I wanted to do was complain and I felt like I wasn't making any progress. The last one said that everything I was doing was right, and I should just keep trying. I eventually quit because I failed to gain any insight into myself from it. They just made me feel more frustrated because when you know there's something wrong and a professional tells you you're OK, it's not reassuring at all. Unfortunately, there is only one more therapist covered on my insurance, and she specializes in gay and lesbian issues so I'm not sure how helpful she can be for me.
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I understand you're getting frustrated, but try the last therapist. She may help, or may not. Until you've exhausted all, and I mean every single one of your options, I don't see how you can say that you've failed. It's just the problem of induction: how many white swans do you need to see to say that all swans are white? How many things will you have to try before you decide you just can't do it? Is this really something you want to give up on until you've tried every single thing you can think of? You've probably got a good chunk of your life left.
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I don't like PUA. It focuses primarily on picking up attractive women with a ♥♥♥♥♥ screen up. I am rarely actually attracted to those types of women. Perhaps it's because they have the ♥♥♥♥♥ screen up, but more likely it's because they often have very little substance to them because they can get by on their looks. I went to high school with some very intelligent women who, in my opinion, sold out by pursuing career paths that didn't require them to think at all.
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Cool? How about you use those techniques and not go for women who have a ♥♥♥♥♥ screen up? you've said you're running out of ideas, perhaps it is time to try some things you don't think will work and really challenge your assumptions?