Some very good viewpoints here. Thanks Keith, I will listen to that podcast and hopefully have the revelation you did. I like the idea of "already be there" as I often visualize my goals and targets, seeing me enjoying life as I want it to be. I would definitively try that.
Bruce, your answer is long and interesting. You make some good points, although it's your understanding I lack at this point. I need to know how to get there I think. I know that my perfectionism can be used for good, because it always makes me strive to be better than I am. I'm too result-oriented I think, and when I can't do it for a reason or another it becomes a very bad thing for me.
Michelle, this is very interesting. It's a bit like the
Option Method where you simply ask yourself questions until you can't answer them anymore and realizes that it might not be the end of the world if you don't think in that way or act in a certain manner. The method has helped me in the past, and I am surprised I didn't think of it now. Thanks!