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Originally Posted by boston123  This is my first post on this forum. I guess I am really searching for answers which leads me to this post.
I have been dating someone for almost 2 years now. We both are young, I recently graduated college, she is still finishing up and will be graduating in the near future. Our relationship has been unreal! I love this girl more than words and feel undeserving of her. She has been a friend and a soulmate to me. Recently I was out (I dont normally go out, but was hanging with friends I hadnt seen in a long time.) got to drinking. I ended up drinking too much and ended up doing something with someone else that will haunt me for a very long time.
Now, I have asked a family member advice about the situation and the advice was not to tell her. This person stated that by telling her your only dumping your guilt on to her.... the guilt is killing me. I love this girl so much, I want to so bad have a honest loving relationship, but by not telling her I am not being completely honest. I got the same advice from a couple friends... I guess I just wish I hadnt done something so ridiculous. I have been afraid of losing this girl ever since we started dating. Now that I did this... I could or will jeopordize my relationship that I cherish so much!!
Without kicking a dog while its down, does anyone have any insight? Please, any advice would be helpful. I dont want to lose this girl!
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Well, your family member gave you good advice. You cannot tell her...it would break her heart.
You have already established you did something wrong, seriously wrong. Welcome to the world oF wrongdoers. Lets put it in context, here.....you did it when you were drunk and your defences were at their lowest. (I am not saying the girl at the party through herself at you....YOU ARE STILL RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS). I wonder how many people wake up in a policecell feeling terrible after a rauctious drunken night out all because they felt macho enough to be cheeky to a policeman. And you didn't kill anyone. There will always be people who wake up in someone elses bed becuase they drank to much....sadly on occassion it does happen.
You love this girl of 2 years and sure you have a future together. Look to building that future now. You have been given a second chance. Take it and use it wisely.
And drink wisely my friend, it won't do you any good, but I think you now know that....Lesson learned.
Go tell that girl you love her more than anything in the world and tell it to her everyday, no 10 times a day and you will believe it strongly in your heart.
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