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smallstar · 01-09-2007, 08:00 AM

Cheers,

I to reply before anyone offered EFT or becoming a pick-up artist as a solution... wow

Being faithful is extremely hard. Extremely if you are young and virile. I see your situation mainly as a conflict of interests - you want both to eat the cake and to spare it. (Anyway, at least at some level of your subconscious, you did want to cheat on her, and this conflicts directly with your intention of being faithful and not hurting her)

Putting my evil imagination at work, I see two choices:

1) You really love her, but just cannot commit yourself to one person for now. This is perfectly normal, but seldom accepted (at least by girls). You will have to choose between eating the cake and sparing it - either restrain yourself and save your relationship, or let her go. I know it doesn't help a little bit now, but most probably in five years you'll be wondering how you could possibly care for her so much (or you'll be crying yourself to sleep every night because you let her go, only you know the difference. Remember - the 7 might seem a 10 to someone who has little experience or imagination.)

2) You are already fed up with her, you just don't know it consciously, and your subconscious mind tells you in the most visible means possible. Maybe you are overcome with the fear of losing her, and just want to end it (concentrated on the "losing her", you found an opportunity.) Let her go, do not look back, and go find the 10.

-SS (Mood 1)

PS. If I chose to try to restrain myself and to save the relationship, which you are most probably going to do, I would not tell anything to her, and hope she'd never find out.

01-09-2007, 08:00 AM	#2 (permalink)
smallstar Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Helsinki, Finland Posts: 146	Cheers, I to reply before anyone offered EFT or becoming a pick-up artist as a solution... wow Being faithful is extremely hard. Extremely if you are young and virile. I see your situation mainly as a conflict of interests - you want both to eat the cake and to spare it. (Anyway, at least at some level of your subconscious, you did want to cheat on her, and this conflicts directly with your intention of being faithful and not hurting her) Putting my evil imagination at work, I see two choices: 1) You really love her, but just cannot commit yourself to one person for now. This is perfectly normal, but seldom accepted (at least by girls). You will have to choose between eating the cake and sparing it - either restrain yourself and save your relationship, or let her go. I know it doesn't help a little bit now, but most probably in five years you'll be wondering how you could possibly care for her so much (or you'll be crying yourself to sleep every night because you let her go, only you know the difference. Remember - the 7 might seem a 10 to someone who has little experience or imagination.) 2) You are already fed up with her, you just don't know it consciously, and your subconscious mind tells you in the most visible means possible. Maybe you are overcome with the fear of losing her, and just want to end it (concentrated on the "losing her", you found an opportunity.) Let her go, do not look back, and go find the 10. -SS (Mood 1) PS. If I chose to try to restrain myself and to save the relationship, which you are most probably going to do, I would not tell anything to her, and hope she'd never find out.