You said the bf's got two cats? Maybe your cat doesn't like the scent of the other cats? I've never had pets, so I don't know how to bond with animals like that, so this whole "Dump the human being for a feline mammal" has been weird to read.
That said, I understand the undercurrent of a power situation here. He's trying to use power and force to get his situation to conform as he likes it and you happen to be the recepient of it. I'd say he's going about it the wrong way rather than making an unreasonable request.
I agree with the folk who suggested that the bf either figure out why it bothers him so much. If he thinks cats are people, as he would if he's got cats, then he may indeed see this as a rejection find out why it bothers him. You've just said, "reminds him of past or something"--that's not an answer. Neither is it to guess at what the cat's thinking, either know or don't, don't guess, you're not gonna solve this by guessing.
And finally. Get rid of the cat.
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