I'll tell you the best alcohol substitute - "No Alcohol". For real... I tried it

You will need about 3 weeks to get addicted to it, but once you do, you're hooked.
You can also try Paraliminals. I just got 3 of them from a friend - they're great. Also - Tai Chi does wonders. After 3 months of learning, I did get at a level where it has such a strong relaxing and energizing effect.
Bach flower remedy is another thing, I'm using it sometimes but I am not sure it is effective. If it is, it's too gentle and by the time it acts, I am already involved in a totally different activity and therefore feel different too.
Showers... massages etc.
However, it's true that most of these things, you can't swallow.