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One thing I would say, and maybe caren can provide some real world backup for this, is that when you raise your kids this way, there is little need for the child to comply as you don't come up against so many issues as you do when you use a more authoritarian approach. I guess what I mean is that you won't have to be concerned about your word being final because your kids will be open with you and respect your input and opinion of whatever is going on.
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This pretty much says it in a nutshell. Once you see this, you'll see interactions between other parents and kids and wonder what the heck they are thinking when they "put their foot down" about really insignificant stuff.* It's like they make a stand about something, then have to follow through and then the going gets reallllly ugly. It's all stems from the philosophy you start with.
*In fact, it's good to just observe for a while. You'll see. It's like taking the red pill or whatever in the Matrix.