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Originally Posted by lemuria  Now this might sound strange because I consider myself a Machiavellian. But I noticed from my experiences, I need to make others happy in order for me to gain pleasures. Most of the time though, I only make others happy by accidents, I don't even intend to do it.
Enough with that.
I read one of Steve's article (Why Polyamory?), and in that article Steve mentioned that he don't know how to love (at least in the beginning).
And yes, my childhood is not that great, I like to completely erase my childhood memories but I guess mother nature want it to stay inside my head.
There's this girl I'm attracted to and I for the first time consciously seduce her (usually it was the girls who make the first move, at least that what I see in my reality). And yes, she do like me. But I can't seem to get in front of her and ask her to go out with me. I thought I was a afraid of rejection, but after reading Steve's article it's clear now my main problem is the fact that I'm afraid of acceptance. And I've been reading 'how to face the fear of rejection' stuffs for months!
I'm afraid that if she accept me, I'll make her unhappy and in return make me unhappy and I'll be having a bad time.
I know that she'll be happy if I tell her that I love her, but what will happen after that? I really wanted to tell her because I'm really curious, what kind of reaction will happen. But at the same time, I'm afraid, I'm really afraid.
So... question is... how to make other people happy?
Honest or manipulative, whatever work. |
^^, be confident in yourself. Trust yourself ask her out. That's it, no special techniques to say here. Girls or ladies are people to.
Good luck,
p.s.
buy her tulips or a stuff toy. If you can't talk to her, write her a letter.