I've been thinking about this post. I would also like to have several close friendships with some physical affection. Unlike what you've described, I've never had any interest in the boyfriend/girlfriend thing, though that might yet change, so I guess I'm looking at some of the same questions.
I'm hearing you want to have a partner who will welcome your other friends (and discuss the people you find attractive on TV etc). I remember seeing it suggested somewhere else on this forum that getting emotional connections and affection from more than one person was also "poly"; and there wasn't much agreement on the subject, some people stuck with "no, that's having friends". I imagine there would be some possible partners for you who don't identify as poly, but the word could also shorten your search a long way. I can see how the "framework with rules" could be useful as well.
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