Quote:
Originally Posted by Jr Billionaire  its simple
just open your mouth
speak to everyone you can
-jr |
I hate to say it, but he's right. You can't think your way out of being shy. What you can think about is a billion excuses as to why it's too hard, and how much it's going to hurt you when you start talking. And it's true, you ARE going to be hurt...by yourself.
But are you really that important? Is that ball of insecurity and pain and anxiety inside really something worthy of attention? I say; ignore the pain, ignore the frustration, ignore the anxiety. Yes, those feelings do hurt. But they don't kill, so tuck your chin and take the hit. Stop focusing on what you're feeling, and start focusing on what you're doing. Because in reality, the only person that can be hurt is that ball of anxiety, and that isn't really you.
Right now that is who you're focused on: Ms. Anxietyball. You're trying to make yourself feel good, with the idea that if you feel good then you'll do good. I say that you should flip that around. Stop trying to feel good, or stop feeling bad, entirely. Utterly. Completely. It's not your feelings, don't worry about them. Instead, start doing all those wonderful things that you've always wanted to do, but never felt good enough to start doing. Now that those pesky feelings are out of the way, you can do whatever you want, because whenever those icky feelings crop up you can just ignore them. You don't need motivation or good feelings to do stuff, you just need to do stuff to do stuff. Or, you can keep playing host to Ms. Anxietyball and listen to her wailing and never do anything worthwhile.