that's good that you won't see her. That won't help at all. I think counselling is a great plan. i'm looking into going for some cognitive behavioural therapy myself - i like that it is outcomes based, which is what i need at the moment. I'm also thinking of buying that byron katie book i need your love etc. but i have so many books to get through right now. i am probably a bit further along in the grieving process than you (despite being double dumped
), but i am really trying to turn this into a positive experience. i remind myself that chances are i wouldn't be so into personal development if this hadn't happened. so i will definitely emerge a better person! you don't even have to think about other people and that someone better could be out there, you probably are not ready for that. above all, be kind to yourself. don't criticise yourself for anything you do. you loved deeply, and you should be proud of that. every little thing you do, whether it is getting up and going to class, making a plan, etc are things you can use be proud of. feel free to talk to me anytime if you need any help (if i do help of course!)