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Originally Posted by funchy  What you're describing does not require childhood abuse, so I wouldn't say that's necessarily a cause. I'm a 30something female, and I've had this happen a few times short-term over the years.
Anything from stress to depression to hormone imbalance will cause a woman's libido to go to zero. Sudden weight gain will mess with hormones. Issues with part of your reproductive tract can cause hormone problems and you may not realize it. The pill, depo, and other hormone contraception in some women can mess with hormone balance. Extreme diet imbalances can also affect it. Stress, poor self esteem, or poor health can also dampen your desire.
I would suggest you talk this over with a doc, especially a gyn. However, it's been my experience the medical field has put a ton of energy into solving male sexual issues and very little is known about women. It still might be wise to rule out hormone, thyroid, and other obvious problems.
Do you also feel tired? A little disinterested in other things?
Sudden weight gain or loss?
Are you getting enough quality sleep?
How do you feel about your body right now? Do you like how you look? Do you feel sexy?
How is the relationship with him? Do do you feel pressured sometimes? Do you tense up when you sense he might be about to hint about sex? |
Thank you for your thoughts.
I admit that I haven't been on the best sleep cycle. I do need to push myself into getting up earlier and going to bed before 2 am.
The past couple years I have been eating a lot healthier. More organic, less processed foods, more veggies/fruits and grains.
I exercise a lot more than I used to and I like how my body looks. I have trouble with certain features like my nose and my arms, though. Generally, I feel sexy.
I have struggled with low energy my entire life. I have been to a doctor to check my thyroid and the tests have been negative.
Stress has been a factor but I have experienced a lot of stress in my life and that did not seem to affect it as much as today.
Emotionally, the relationship is very well. I did feel pressure with him and since I told him about that, he has not pressured me. I do feel tense when he hints about sex.
I believe that I need to get on a better sleep cycle, limit the amount of stress, and engage in fun hobbies.