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loveandlight · 01-28-2009, 04:17 AM

If you have parents that would be willing to take you back in for a while so you get back on your feet...why would you refuse the help???

You said you're 20, right? There is absolutely zero shame in going back to living with your parents at age 20 if you are facing a crisis like this. What are you talking about, giving up on your dreams? You can't even buy a drink at a bar yet and you are talking like this?! Give yourself a break. No success or dream is accomplished without stumbling a little bit, especially at first.

Look, some young punk might make it sound like you get a badge for being homeless but you don't. It breaks a person. It's extremely scary, not to mention dangerous, and don't forget traumatizing. You think living with your parents for a little bit will be giving up on your dreams? Try sleeping in the streets for one night. Don't do that to yourself.

I have known many people throughout my years who had to go live with their parents again because they were in a financial crisis, or they had to flee an abusive relationship, or they got a divorce and the spouse took everything, or they got cancer, the list goes on, and they were all older than 20.

The point is that they stayed for a couple of months and got back on their feet. Yea it would have been nice if none of them faced any of those situations but this is Planet Earth and reality we are dealing with. They're not losers for accepting help in a dire situation when they desperately needed it just because it came from family.

And for the record, the taboo surrounding moving back in with your parents is a social mores or custom, not a universal standard. In many Asian, Hispanic, and some European cultures, you never move out of the house. You see 4 generations under one roof and this is social norm. I'm not saying you should move back in for good with your parents, of course not, but it's not the end of life if you need a couple of months to get back on your feet, especially this early in the game.

Child, I ain't even gonna take this any further and I'll be damned if I don't call out any idiot suggesting homelessness to you when you are only 20 years old and have parents who will take you back in. Go move back in with mama for a couple of months and save up a rent payment!

01-28-2009, 04:17 AM	#19 (permalink)
loveandlight Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 20	Say WHAT?! Some people are suggesting homelessness to this young man?! If you have parents that would be willing to take you back in for a while so you get back on your feet...why would you refuse the help??? You said you're 20, right? There is absolutely zero shame in going back to living with your parents at age 20 if you are facing a crisis like this. What are you talking about, giving up on your dreams? You can't even buy a drink at a bar yet and you are talking like this?! Give yourself a break. No success or dream is accomplished without stumbling a little bit, especially at first. Look, some young punk might make it sound like you get a badge for being homeless but you don't. It breaks a person. It's extremely scary, not to mention dangerous, and don't forget traumatizing. You think living with your parents for a little bit will be giving up on your dreams? Try sleeping in the streets for one night. Don't do that to yourself. I have known many people throughout my years who had to go live with their parents again because they were in a financial crisis, or they had to flee an abusive relationship, or they got a divorce and the spouse took everything, or they got cancer, the list goes on, and they were all older than 20. The point is that they stayed for a couple of months and got back on their feet. Yea it would have been nice if none of them faced any of those situations but this is Planet Earth and reality we are dealing with. They're not losers for accepting help in a dire situation when they desperately needed it just because it came from family. And for the record, the taboo surrounding moving back in with your parents is a social mores or custom, not a universal standard. In many Asian, Hispanic, and some European cultures, you never move out of the house. You see 4 generations under one roof and this is social norm. I'm not saying you should move back in for good with your parents, of course not, but it's not the end of life if you need a couple of months to get back on your feet, especially this early in the game. Child, I ain't even gonna take this any further and I'll be damned if I don't call out any idiot suggesting homelessness to you when you are only 20 years old and have parents who will take you back in. Go move back in with mama for a couple of months and save up a rent payment! Last edited by loveandlight; 01-28-2009 at 04:43 AM.