What you're describing does not require childhood abuse, so I wouldn't say that's necessarily a cause. I'm a 30something female, and I've had this happen a few times short-term over the years.
Anything from stress to depression to hormone imbalance will cause a woman's libido to go to zero. Sudden weight gain will mess with hormones. Issues with part of your reproductive tract can cause hormone problems and you may not realize it. The pill, depo, and other hormone contraception in some women can mess with hormone balance. Extreme diet imbalances can also affect it. Stress, poor self esteem, or poor health can also dampen your desire.
I would suggest you talk this over with a doc, especially a gyn. However, it's been my experience the medical field has put a ton of energy into solving male sexual issues and very little is known about women. It still might be wise to rule out hormone, thyroid, and other obvious problems.
Do you also feel tired? A little disinterested in other things?
Sudden weight gain or loss?
Are you getting enough quality sleep?
How do you feel about your body right now? Do you like how you look? Do you feel sexy?
How is the relationship with him? Do do you feel pressured sometimes? Do you tense up when you sense he might be about to hint about sex?
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