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Originally Posted by Angela  Take a look. In the space of just a few posts, you stated two apparently conflicting things:
I read A), that first part, in context, several times, and I can't figure out what you meant by that other than that there isn't desire and will to change. That's why I asked -- not to interrogate or attack you.
I ask you to ask your self the question -- why did you say that first part -- because consciously "there is genuine desire and change inside." I'm not asking your for what you know you know -- the insight you've gleaned from therapy -- I'm asking you to ask yourself for your inner truth of why you said that, because you have communicated a conflict, and perhaps there is an inner conflict that you are not consciously aware of. Since you responded defensively (you felt attacked or threatened), this appears to have pushed your buttons, so even more reason to look boldly.
You don't have to answer my questions or even read them, of course. I do ask you to consider my question at least to yourself, though. If you've ever read my posts, and I've got a million of 'em, you know I don't pussyfoot around when I see gold glinting. |
My psychologist has always stressed desire to change and I have reminded myself of this insight for many months. However, my inner child does fear intimacy and trust, but that does not imply that I am not desiring change as the adult. I do believe that there is conflict between both and I believe this is because I do not have resolved issues from my childhood. I believe that there will always be conflict in every human being, its just the frequency and duration and that is important.
Are there times when I don't want to change? Of course.
Are there times when I do want to change? Of course. As I become older and more consistent, I have found that my desire to change has become stronger.
Like Margaret Paul (inner child psychotherapist) has theorized that there must be an intent to learn, not to protect. When we protect, we cannot learn.