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Originally Posted by Angela  What do you think it might be?
If you were feeling hot and juicy and engaged with pleasing your boyfriend, what would be present that's not present now? What would you have let go of, or what way of being would you actively be generating (what kind of thoughts would you be thinking)?
If you could magically have HIM let go of something, or take on a way of being, that would have you feeling more sexy, what would it be? Him, or any man. |
Thanks Angela.
I have thought of this, since I am a big fan of cognitive, and I like your insightful approach.
I believe it has to do with my childhood interactions with my father and the sexual abuse.
What would be present is a desire to please him. I don't want to please or satisfy him..which I don't completely understand (which could be related to the sexual abuse).
I am very critical of his looks. Since I met him, I wasn't entirely impressed by his looks.
I have noticed that I am more attracted to the bad boy image or the distant type. My boyfriend is very engaging and caring, something my father is not. I have read that you tend to seek out the opposite sex that reminds you of your relationship with your parents.
When my boyfriend does not show sexual interest in me, I tend to become seductive and teasing. But once he shows interest, I immediately become uncomfortable and edgy.