[Jenny]

ddjames,
I notice when I become highly focused on comparing myself (for the worst) with others it is when I'm not paying attention to or doing what matters to me. At that point it becomes easy to only see the good in other's lives.

Likely you have some pretty strong ideas about why women are attracted to "below-average" guys and not you. Perhaps if you really pull those ideas apart you will get a hint into what is allowing you the negative comparisons.

For me it is the fear that I'm missing something important by prioritizing my life the way I have - something that these other people have and that I can only look at from the outside. *shrug*

True I guess except for the "I can only look at from the outside" because most of the time when I really look deeper I could have what they do I'm just not willing to expend the energy nor do I desire all of the other things that accompany it. Could this be true for you as well?