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bellbird · 01-27-2009, 10:51 PM

Hi Yellow
This is funny I was just thinking of the same predicament. Things is when you CARE about what others think of you or whether they understand you, that's what makes it complicated. I think we have to accept that everyone is different and that we can't WANT for others to 'get' us because they simply don't always. We may think we have been clear but more often then not we haven't. Comes down to clear communication.

I currently have a situation that's business related where I find it frustrating that I can tell I'm perceived differently then what I'm trying to get accross. As I'm responsible for my own life and not what other people think or understand it's the only thing I can do, remind myself that I'm an honest person and that my feelings are important to me and that it's silly wanting these to matter to others. If I want to be understood to other people I will have to talk to them and say that I like them to know this or that. By asking we can check whether a point has come accross and that they are aware of our emotions and way of thinking.

I pick up emotions from other people really well and even when that's very handy at times it can be unnerving as well. So I guess: SPEAK to them and ask. It can be scary but the end of the day you have been straight forward and thaht's all you can do. My 2 cents

01-27-2009, 10:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
bellbird Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Dunedin, New Zealand Posts: 194	be yourself Hi Yellow This is funny I was just thinking of the same predicament. Things is when you CARE about what others think of you or whether they understand you, that's what makes it complicated. I think we have to accept that everyone is different and that we can't WANT for others to 'get' us because they simply don't always. We may think we have been clear but more often then not we haven't. Comes down to clear communication. I currently have a situation that's business related where I find it frustrating that I can tell I'm perceived differently then what I'm trying to get accross. As I'm responsible for my own life and not what other people think or understand it's the only thing I can do, remind myself that I'm an honest person and that my feelings are important to me and that it's silly wanting these to matter to others. If I want to be understood to other people I will have to talk to them and say that I like them to know this or that. By asking we can check whether a point has come accross and that they are aware of our emotions and way of thinking. I pick up emotions from other people really well and even when that's very handy at times it can be unnerving as well. So I guess: SPEAK to them and ask. It can be scary but the end of the day you have been straight forward and thaht's all you can do. My 2 cents