Hey man, I feel you. Sleepless nights, empty stomach, crying, anger, longing and sadness are all part of the process. My girlfriend broke up with me last summer in July, and I went through hell.
I am trying to come up with the right words to just say: honor the grieving process. You have already found some space that is necessary to express those emotions. Let yourself fall apart if that is what you feel like at the moment, when you are at home or with someone you are comfortable with.
When I went through my breakup, I wanted to rush and feel better as soon as possible. I even gave myself a deadline of 3 months. Any sign of me feeling sad, hurt or broken were just signs of weakness that I had to get rid of. Composure was of utmost importance for me. Quite frankly it just sucks to feel down and in the blues, which is why I wanted out.
To paraphrase Kahlil Gibran the source of your greatest joy is also the source of your greatest sorrow. Take your time with your pain. The more you stress about getting rid of those feelings, the more they will intensify. This sounds counterintuitive but in the heat of the moment, you will more than likely say f-this, I just want to feel better.
You are already taking steps to own those emotions. Talking to friends, posting in forums and seeking counseling is great. That's what I did too and it sure does help out. However, you might still have negative feelings after you've taken considerable action. Everyone grieves differently, and it might take you more or less time than others to process all the emotions. Just have some compassion for yourself and know it is OK to feel the way you do at that moment; whether it takes 1 month, 3 months or 1 year.
Un abrazo,
Diego
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