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Bob48 · 01-27-2009, 07:03 PM

I blush in conversations when I think I’m about to be embarrassed. And, I blush big. Not cool in the workplace.

Since I’m the first to know the conversation is going in a way that’s making me uncomfortable, and since I may be the only one that realizes that it’s going that way, it’s important to stay calm. Important not to let on that I’m suddenly really uncomfortable. Try to move the conversation in another direction, or act like I didn’t hear the question, act like it didn’t involve me. “Oh. Are you asking if I was the last one who had the file? Well, yes. I may have been. We should look into that after the meeting”

By now I’m bright red. But, I go on functioning as if I was still beige. Keep eye contact. Shuffle some papers. Ask an unrelated question. Put a little distance between the trigger event, and what comes next.

Then, like I’ve just noticed, I look at my palms and comment to no one in particular, “Am I pink?” Don’t say red. Don't say blush.. say pink.

Then again to no one, or to the person next to me I will say “Sorry, it's Valsalva Erythema. It makes my skin get pink for no particular reason. It will pass in a moment. Nothing to worry about. Kind of a weird thing. I understand Raye Hollitt has the same condition. Sorry.” And all the while I'm looking at my hands like I don't know my face is affected.

Your home free if somebody says, “It’s on your face too.” Like ‘it’ is VE not a vicious blush.

Pronounced Val salva Aira theama. It’s sort of real. Valsalva means you strained your lungs so hard your face got red. Like blowing up a very tight balloon. Erythema is a reddening of the skin.

Tell people you just found out that you have Valsalva Erythema. Practice the name. Practice believing you have the condition. It's close enough to real that your doctor may think he's heard of it. Go give blood and tell them you have Valsalva Erythema, but you've been told it's OK to donate. I promise you the Red Cross will ask you how to spell it, and will add it to your file.

The next time you start to turn bright red (pink), be happy. You now know why it's happening. It's just a harmless medical oddity that you and I have in common.

It will pass in a moment. Nothing to worry about. It's Valsalva Erythema.

And by the way... who is Raye Hollitt?

01-27-2009, 07:03 PM	#13 (permalink)
Bob48 Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 1	Blush response I blush in conversations when I think I’m about to be embarrassed. And, I blush big. Not cool in the workplace. Since I’m the first to know the conversation is going in a way that’s making me uncomfortable, and since I may be the only one that realizes that it’s going that way, it’s important to stay calm. Important not to let on that I’m suddenly really uncomfortable. Try to move the conversation in another direction, or act like I didn’t hear the question, act like it didn’t involve me. “Oh. Are you asking if I was the last one who had the file? Well, yes. I may have been. We should look into that after the meeting” By now I’m bright red. But, I go on functioning as if I was still beige. Keep eye contact. Shuffle some papers. Ask an unrelated question. Put a little distance between the trigger event, and what comes next. Then, like I’ve just noticed, I look at my palms and comment to no one in particular, “Am I pink?” Don’t say red. Don't say blush.. say pink. Then again to no one, or to the person next to me I will say “Sorry, it's Valsalva Erythema. It makes my skin get pink for no particular reason. It will pass in a moment. Nothing to worry about. Kind of a weird thing. I understand Raye Hollitt has the same condition. Sorry.” And all the while I'm looking at my hands like I don't know my face is affected. Your home free if somebody says, “It’s on your face too.” Like ‘it’ is VE not a vicious blush. Pronounced Val salva Aira theama. It’s sort of real. Valsalva means you strained your lungs so hard your face got red. Like blowing up a very tight balloon. Erythema is a reddening of the skin. Tell people you just found out that you have Valsalva Erythema. Practice the name. Practice believing you have the condition. It's close enough to real that your doctor may think he's heard of it. Go give blood and tell them you have Valsalva Erythema, but you've been told it's OK to donate. I promise you the Red Cross will ask you how to spell it, and will add it to your file. The next time you start to turn bright red (pink), be happy. You now know why it's happening. It's just a harmless medical oddity that you and I have in common. It will pass in a moment. Nothing to worry about. It's Valsalva Erythema. And by the way... who is Raye Hollitt?