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Originally Posted by Foggy  I take back what I said about not wanting advice. I'm having a very difficult time keeping myself together right now. As thankful as I am to my friends, I feel guilty if I lean on them too much. One of my friends helped me make a crisis plan with some phone numbers I could call if I need someone to talk to, and I'm going to try going to the counseling center on campus even though I haven't had a very positive experience with counseling in the past. Hopefully it will help, and I'm glad I'm finally shedding some tears. It's much better than wanting to cry and not being able to. |
Your friend had a good idea with the crisis plan. It's nice to have a friend (or many) to call when you are feeling exceptionally bad or are about to break down and call her. It sounds like you have good friends, so don't worry about leaning on them too much. That's what friends are for! You don't have to go full out emotional wreck drama every time you see them, but do let them be there for you as it seems they desire to do.
For me a great tool in healing from a breakup or other hard emotional experience is The Work of Byron Katie. I particularly like "I Need Your Love Is That True?"
There will be some times when you feel fine, some when you are doing really well and others where you feel crushed and panicky. Most of us have been there so it's no joke when I say to you that I am really sorry you're feeling this way. At the same time, I also know you can get through it. You don't have to be super strong all the time, but you have shown here that you are smart and courageous and looking at this from a good frame of mind despite the pain. That's really encouraging and I hope you do take time to be proud of yourself.
Most of all, take care of yourself. Try to get your rest and eat good food. Drink water. Take a walk. A lot of this simple stuff gets lost when you are depressed and it serves to bring you down even further. Go with a friend to see a movie you've really been looking forward to.
I wish you the best and lots of love to you. I expect someone else will have some good advice for you so stick around.