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Originally Posted by pyrogen  You're LOSING YOUR MOJO!!! NEVER LOSE YOUR MOJO!
Never, NEVER chase the guy.
Stop calling him. In fact, lose his number. Delete it. Don't visit him until he's visited you again. Let him come up with a way to bring you two together. He'll love it, really. A guy who really likes you will move heaven and earth for you, or at least will move heaven and earth WITH you.
You're not hurting him. It's fun for him.
Work on your own mojo and start dating other people. If the ball is in his court, you've lost your mojo. Your mojo is why he liked you.
Don't worry, he can smell your mojo half a world away. He'll call the moment you have your mojo back. Happens all the time.
A lot of people hate this book but it's really the best tough love kind of manual out there for this kind of thing... you need The Rules. Google "Rules" "Fein" "Schneider". You're not actually manipulating anyone or making people do things they don't want to do, it's just a system for weeding out the people who aren't ALREADY meeting your needs. That's not manipulation. |
Thanks for your concern pyrogen, but I may sound like Im losing my "Mojo". But in reality the facts are:
he wrote friday, I didnt reply, he wrote again Monday.
I replied that I was very well, doing fun things, busy. and BTW it would be nice to talk on the phone.
I dont think thats losing my mojo.
But yes, I will start seeing other people. I feel thats the missing ingridient I need to feel balanced about this. And your right, I wont offer to come see him just yet. Lets see if he brings it up himself...Although I know he cant afford flying here anytime soon. Its not like he lives in another state.
He lives in another continent. A 12 hour flight...and an expensive one for a PHD student...