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Originally Posted by teenphenom  Hey guys, my girlfriend and I have been going out for about three months. Previous to this, I hadn't had a girlfriend for about three years due to terrible insecurities after a messy breakup. I love my current girlfriend to death, however, I feel as though I'm too attached to her. I get very easily offended at the smallest things she does, like hugging other guys or hanging out with her girl friends without telling me. The worst part is, she's such a lovely girl and always apologizes if I tell her that it makes me upset and promises to take my feelings into consideration in the future. Unfortunately, I continue to get jealous at the really tiny things she does. I think it's an obvious case of insecurity on my part, as I have really slacked off in terms of meeting new people and maintaining social relationships outside of our relationship since we've hooked up. What do you guys think?
I have tried the Sedona Method, Byron Katie's methods, and EFT on the feelings of jealousy and hurt I get at the small things she does. However, this does not eliminate the overall problem of me having such an overwhelming fear of losing her at the slightest cues.
Is this just a matter of working on myself and getting a life outside of my girlfriend? Is it genuine love for her? Are there any things you would recommend to me to become a more fun, happier, and better boyfriend? Thanks so much! |
^^, show some spine. Girls love guys who are confident, with a slight feminine kick to it. Use your strong points, if you shy, play cute when you two are alone and treat her like the queen she is. When with others, talk to the others but always ask her every now and then about her opinion.
Girls love to talk, and they love to listen. Have a chat with your girl and ask her what she expect from you and you can build up on that.
Having a girl is really fun and it's a life long adventure.
Good luck ^^,