Hi Seeker, great question...It's outside the confort zone of a lot of people to just go out and hug people, I'd be happy to hear your feedback about that when you start doing it.
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Originally Posted by seeker5  Hmmm. After I posted this, I thought maybe the first thing I should do is go to one of these events, with no intention of hugging, but just hanging out with them and seeing how it happens. Maybe that'll take some of the fear out when I see a bunch of people doing it and loving it. |
Yes that sounds like a good idea. If you see some people doing it, it'll bring your reality closer to actually doing it. You'll probably be able to pick up on their belief system just by staying with them, and seeing how it's not such a big deal for those who do it already.
Some of these guys probably have gone through the same hesitation as your going through now, so they'll be able to share their experiences with you on how to solve it, especially if you tell them that you'd like to do it but that something is holding yourself back for the moment.
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Originally Posted by seeker5 Though, the idea of constantly having people walking by and rejecting my offer bothers me too  . |
I guess when you start being rejected a lot it isn't going to matter anymore.
There's a paradox in rejection...When we start getting rejected a lot, we discover that no matter how many times people reject us, we're never going to be totally rejected and outside human society...So it makes you feel more connected.
That's something I've witnessed with the pick up artists. Those guys get rejected quite often because they initiate conversation with so many people, and yet they build more connections than people who don't initiate conversations because of fear of rejection.
More rejections = more connections, that's the paradox
If you try to hug say 100 people, and 50 of them turn you down, that's 50 rejections. However at the end of the day, you'll feel really good because you'll have hugged the 50 other people! (which makes you realize that it's not a big deal if people say "no I don't want a hug").
Also in reality, I think you'll enjoy much more than a 50% "success rate" because it's such a nice thing to propose a hug.
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Originally Posted by seeker5 I think I need to redefine what a hug means. What is a hug anyhow? I guess I had a hug mean that you care about someone, but now I think I should redefine it more loosely to simply mean something else. Like two people enjoying the warmth and love that exists in the world? |
I guess by going outside and seeing what it is you'll feel what a hug means. I'd say it's like not a big deal, a quick expession of love for humanity manifested in the form of a hug.
Last thing, we could go into technical details such as :
-make eye contact
-smile
-be opened, have an opened body language and all
but I think that seeing how people do it and feel their vibes will be much more effective.