i think everyone is scared. I'm scared too. i never used to speak up. now i force myself and i try not let it bother me if people don't listen in. when you see someone you want to talk to, just think that chances are that person is really nice, and would like to speak to you. personally, i always speak to people who speak to me. sigh. like i said, am struggling with the same thing. just bought a book after seeing someone recommend it here - still waiting for it to arrive (something like how to make yourself irresistable to men - seems one has to go the extra mile these days) but truly, i agree that it's hard to not respond to someone who is really happy and enthused with life. at the moment i'm often faking it. but eventually it will just become that way. above all, have fun. i went through this stage where i was going out and felt sort of desperate. now i've tried to let it go and just enjoy myself, being myself. that said, the groups idea is probably good. nice to talk to similar minded people. i'm still thinking of a group i can even join. was thinking of a running club actually.
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