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pyrogen · 01-25-2009, 10:44 PM

Greetings, folks.

I feel pretty confident in how to handle men and avoid most of the traps where I could easily get hurt... in hetero circles I feel comfortable about my attractiveness and soforth. I'm "femme" and am conventionally attractive by heterosexual standards.

It's dealing with women that's the issue... I am basically the female version of an "Average Frustrated Chump" and do all the usual AFC tricks. In the past I was a big loser with women. Furthermore it seems like the lesbian social circle has unwritten rules of its own that I haven't figured out yet and unlike the heterosexual world, there just aren't any books on what to do. All the lesbian books out there are "relationship books", not dating books - they assume you're already in a relationship.

I am in a relationship at the moment but it's kind of iffy, we might break up, and if I'm going to stay then I'd like to feel more like I chose it consciously rather than reacted to my AFC frustration. I'd like to overcome being an Average Frustrated Chick.

Is there anything from PUA that applies to women who like women?

01-25-2009, 10:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
pyrogen Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 568	Can gay/bi women learn anything from PUA? Greetings, folks. I feel pretty confident in how to handle men and avoid most of the traps where I could easily get hurt... in hetero circles I feel comfortable about my attractiveness and soforth. I'm "femme" and am conventionally attractive by heterosexual standards. It's dealing with women that's the issue... I am basically the female version of an "Average Frustrated Chump" and do all the usual AFC tricks. In the past I was a big loser with women. Furthermore it seems like the lesbian social circle has unwritten rules of its own that I haven't figured out yet and unlike the heterosexual world, there just aren't any books on what to do. All the lesbian books out there are "relationship books", not dating books - they assume you're already in a relationship. I am in a relationship at the moment but it's kind of iffy, we might break up, and if I'm going to stay then I'd like to feel more like I chose it consciously rather than reacted to my AFC frustration. I'd like to overcome being an Average Frustrated Chick. Is there anything from PUA that applies to women who like women? Last edited by pyrogen; 01-25-2009 at 10:47 PM.