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Blanks00 · 01-25-2009, 10:10 PM

Hi N64,

I'd like to reply to your question from a slightly different perspective.

Contrary to popular assumption, getting into a relationship is not easy, especially if you've never been in one before. In films the message is shown all the time that people fall in love from just knowing each other, and because of the massive exposure we have to this, everyone assumes deep down that when the right person comes along you'll both fall in love.

Sadly, this just isn't the case.

To get in a relationship you have to actively persue it. You have to come across in an attractive way as a guy who isn't just going to be a friend, and make the first moves. I recommend searching for 'PUA' on google, you may have heard about it but there's loads of information on how to get girls out there, general stuff that's relevant to everyone as well as specific things for people who want to devote a lot of time and effort to it.

Find women who you like and have the mindset that everyone could be a possible girlfriend. If you like them, go for it...
And if it doesn't work out and they're not the right girl for you, you can move on and you'll have gained valuable life experience and not lost a thing.

As for having many female friends but not having been with them, this is because if you want a relationship, you have to get it. The reason you're not with any of those girls is because you never properly tried to. There is nothing 'wrong' with you, girls just very rarely make first moves, and if you've established yourself as a friend a girl will assume that you will never be anything more. I was once in exactly the same place as you. I had loads of female friends but none had ever shown any interest in me in a sexual way. I thought that there must be something wrong with me because I could make female friends easily but never anything else. Then I learnt that if you set out to get a girl upon meeting her, you will spark interest in you, because you've established yourself as a potential lover. Girls and guys think very differently.

As for your fear of relationships, all people get scared by things they've never done before, that's normal. I say go and find out for yourself!

I wish you the best of luck,
Blanks00

01-25-2009, 10:10 PM	#12 (permalink)
Blanks00 Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 15	Hi N64, I'd like to reply to your question from a slightly different perspective. Contrary to popular assumption, getting into a relationship is not easy, especially if you've never been in one before. In films the message is shown all the time that people fall in love from just knowing each other, and because of the massive exposure we have to this, everyone assumes deep down that when the right person comes along you'll both fall in love. Sadly, this just isn't the case. To get in a relationship you have to actively persue it. You have to come across in an attractive way as a guy who isn't just going to be a friend, and make the first moves. I recommend searching for 'PUA' on google, you may have heard about it but there's loads of information on how to get girls out there, general stuff that's relevant to everyone as well as specific things for people who want to devote a lot of time and effort to it. Find women who you like and have the mindset that everyone could be a possible girlfriend. If you like them, go for it... And if it doesn't work out and they're not the right girl for you, you can move on and you'll have gained valuable life experience and not lost a thing. As for having many female friends but not having been with them, this is because if you want a relationship, you have to get it. The reason you're not with any of those girls is because you never properly tried to. There is nothing 'wrong' with you, girls just very rarely make first moves, and if you've established yourself as a friend a girl will assume that you will never be anything more. I was once in exactly the same place as you. I had loads of female friends but none had ever shown any interest in me in a sexual way. I thought that there must be something wrong with me because I could make female friends easily but never anything else. Then I learnt that if you set out to get a girl upon meeting her, you will spark interest in you, because you've established yourself as a potential lover. Girls and guys think very differently. As for your fear of relationships, all people get scared by things they've never done before, that's normal. I say go and find out for yourself! I wish you the best of luck, Blanks00 Last edited by Blanks00; 01-25-2009 at 10:19 PM.