I think one of the tricky things is, when we ask ourselves "how will I feel when I have/achieve ____?", we're likely to immediately think "happier, of course", without really thinking through all the details.
That's why it becomes easier, for example, to get into a relationship when you are conscious that it won't solve all of your problems, and that there will be some work involved, sacrifices, etc. -- because then you're really thinking like someone who knows what a relationship is like. |