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Originally Posted by sharinggan  Wow, thanks for all the replys guys.
Well, I'm not really sure. I've always been interesting in things but I've never really had that much support from my mom (I realize now that it's mostly my mom that I'm frustraited at..). Whenever I'd have interest in something she would be like 'oh really? thats nice...' and that was about it. She never shared my entusaism for things so as a kid I suppose I had veered off from what my mom didnt think was interesting enough (what did I know? I was a kid right?).
Also, my mom was kind of a (for lack of a better word) prude. I never got to stay up late (bed time was 8:30 untill I was 12), never got to go out to hang out with friends for that long (I wasn't allowed out untill after 3-4ish because 'the sun is the hottest during mid day and you'd get burned if you were out then' and then i'd have to be back at 6 becuse 'it gets dark at 6 and i dont want you out then'). I dunno, to me it feels like she underestimates my abilities? Like, I can't take care of myself or something... grrr
Even now, as a university student she's always nagging about how I 'need to make the right friends, dont waste time with stupid things, focus on school because if you screw up terrible things will happen blahblahblah'.
Wow, I just ranted about my mom.... |
speaking from a mother's perspective
-we do not get handbooks for you kids
over the years I have let go more and let my children just be themselves
instead of enforcing impossible rules
the only rules I have aren't really rules
to me they are a way of living-show compassion and respect for people
and if you can't do that at the time then just walk away
I cannot excuse her behaviour
but it might be social conditioning -poor role models etc
who knows
if you do not want to talk to her in person
maybe if you just tell her how you feel in an email or letter
that way you can re-write it as many times as you want to
we are imperfect beings and we make mistakes
show her compassion,forgive her and live your life
"To err is human; to forgive, divine. "-Alexander Pope
