So, what do you think might happen if you were to let go of your focus on "being in a relationship" (which sounds like a way of being, but is really a *having*), and focusing on "relating" (which is a *doing*)?
What do you think would be possible for you if you were to enjoy the action of relating effectively and enjoyably with women? By "effective" I don't mean: effectively getting something, like a girlfriend or sex or validation. I mean: being my heart's desire. What would you be being if you were "in a relationship"? Do you really need to be in a relationship first? Is it possible that you could just go ahead and be that, right now?
And if you were to take on that way of being, can you see how that might affect the way you interact with women?
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