Perhaps Jr Billionaire's advice doesn't sound very helpful, but he's basically right. I think the best way to overcome shyness is usually to jump in the deep end and start talking to people. If you don't want to do that, then just increase your social interactions more gradually. Of course, you'll feel a lot of resistance if you don't feel confident, or if you're afraid of saying something wrong. You know what the answer to that is? The answer is to realize that it's okay to fail. It's okay to say something stupid, it's okay to embarrass yourself, or to have people look at you in a strange way. It's not the end of the world. The only thing that's not okay, is to give up. So expose yourself to more social situations. Go to parties, sit down with someone and have a conversation over coffee. Just start doing things, knowing full well that you will probably make some mistakes. And then when you do make mistakes, go home, laugh about it, and try it again. Us humans need lots of practice before we get good at things, so don't be so hard on yourself.
Last edited by Eric Roosevelt; 01-25-2009 at 08:13 AM.
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