[loveliketheflowers]

so i am kind of shy. don't talk to much. always have been the same my whole life. i'm not a mute, i love to talk and be silly and goofy and laugh. but sometimes i just like to observe and listen to people and try to help as best as i can. i know this is not an attractive trait while dating. a lot of guys/men want a women who is super outgoing, talkative, loud, charismatic, great conversator. I want to be these things and change myself for the better so I can gain more friends and possibly a nice relationship as well. Should I try to stay the same and enjoy being myself, quiet and reserved sometimes but outgoing, friendly, and nice to all. OR, should I change myself to be different and more enjoyable to be around so someone will want to see me again and again. I think me being shy really hinders me and gives signals to the person i'm dating that i'm one way, but if they stick around for a little longer they will come to find out i'm a pretty cool person inside. I want to be better, I want to change. I want to be more approachable, and a joy for people to be around and bring around others.

How can I go about this? How can I change from shy to outgoing and talkative and interesting? Or how can I fake it til I make it? I just want to be a joy to always be around and have people always inviting me to go places. My goal this year is to be more social and make more friends and heal old friendships.

Appreciate all advice. thank you