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kayumochi · 01-24-2009, 08:34 PM

You may want to question the belief "I am not social enough." There is a woman who woke up one day to reality named Byron Katie (I know, a strange name for a woman) who created something called "The Work" to help you with your belief. Look on Amazon.com and see what you can find. The belief that you are not social enough and that you should change is doing two things: causing you internal misery and surprisingly enough, keeping your social skills undeveloped.

So if you decide to do Byron Katie's The Work you will simply feel better about who and what you are right now as the guilt, fear and pressure subside.

That will free up energy and space to develop social skills. You may find yourself naturally and effortlessly becoming more social.

But you will probably want more.

You spoke as if you are a male so I will advise this even though it may at first seem shallow.

There is a thread regarding The Seduction/Pick Up Artist (PUA) Community on this forum. What you can learn in this community will help you as long as your approach it with maturity and don't get stuck there. Go to Amazon.com again and buy a book by Neil Strauss entitled The Game. You will read of guys worse off than yourself who transformed themselves (as well as guys who transformed but got stuck at that stage). You don't have to be a natural Alpha Male to enjoy the good life. How cruel that would be if it were the case!

I offer this just as a suggestion. Do it if it makes sense to you. Also, there is a new book by Ken Wilber and others entitled "Integral Life Practice" that draws upon Integral Theory. The practice puts the theory into action. Good stuff. It will give you a framework to put your entire life in, now and forever.

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kayumochi Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 50	You may want to question the belief "I am not social enough." There is a woman who woke up one day to reality named Byron Katie (I know, a strange name for a woman) who created something called "The Work" to help you with your belief. Look on Amazon.com and see what you can find. The belief that you are not social enough and that you should change is doing two things: causing you internal misery and surprisingly enough, keeping your social skills undeveloped. So if you decide to do Byron Katie's The Work you will simply feel better about who and what you are right now as the guilt, fear and pressure subside. That will free up energy and space to develop social skills. You may find yourself naturally and effortlessly becoming more social. But you will probably want more. You spoke as if you are a male so I will advise this even though it may at first seem shallow. There is a thread regarding The Seduction/Pick Up Artist (PUA) Community on this forum. What you can learn in this community will help you as long as your approach it with maturity and don't get stuck there. Go to Amazon.com again and buy a book by Neil Strauss entitled The Game. You will read of guys worse off than yourself who transformed themselves (as well as guys who transformed but got stuck at that stage). You don't have to be a natural Alpha Male to enjoy the good life. How cruel that would be if it were the case! I offer this just as a suggestion. Do it if it makes sense to you. Also, there is a new book by Ken Wilber and others entitled "Integral Life Practice" that draws upon Integral Theory. The practice puts the theory into action. Good stuff. It will give you a framework to put your entire life in, now and forever.