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Originally Posted by seeker5  Why did you cancel the get-together simply because the particular movie you wanted to see wasn't playing??? Why didn't you find another movie the 3 of you would be interested, or go do something else like play board games, go to a bar, invite them to your place and have dinner, etc? |
I spent a fair amount of time trying to convince people that this movie was worthwhile to see; most people weren't particularly interested to begin with. I think proposing something else would be even worse because no one likes a bait and switch. The point of the outing was not to socialize; it was to see a movie, and maybe socialize. The people who were going were not likely to socialize. Based on my previous experience, they wouldn't have gone out somewhere with me afterwards. They probably wouldn't have taken any time with me to discuss the movie. Some people were bringing dates. They promoted the movie to their dates, and were very disappointed that they couldn't see the movie. No one suggested that we see another movie. No one other than me sounded at all interested in doing it in the first place at all.
In this case, the best thing was to cancel. I strongly suspect that if I said, "OK, so no movie, but now we're going to be playing board games," I would be playing board games alone and would have a bunch of very pissed off people on my hands.