Originally Posted by striving4peace
I think Steve might have gotten a little too elitist and judgmental lately. On one hand he says anyone who tells him their views of him about him and his polyamorous suffer from 'remote diagnosis disorder' while he goes and does the same thing with his views on people doing anything that doesn't align with his way : calling them dumb, repressed and a lot of other degrading things. .
Well, there is a difference between people telling Steve their views on polyamory, and them telling him their views on what's wrong with Steve. One is evaluation and the other is judgement (good/bad right/wrong). The first is sharing, and aligned with truth, love, and power; the second is taking the perspective that Steve is diseased/evil/broken and needs to be cured/obliterated/fixed.
I think those who feel that sex is wrong, dirty, or immoral are terribly repressed.
This might have been a very confronting way of wording it -- but I can't see how it's elitist or judgmental. Basically, if you are judging your natural sexuality -- something that is built into our species -- as wrong, dirty, or immoral, are you not repressing that natural sexuality? Saying "someone is terribly repressed" does communicate it in a way that I can see would offend people, and I'm thinking Steve might want to reword it. (maybe not, though; he seems to enjoy pushing buttons
). "You ARE this or you ARE that" is not a real love-based way to communicate, in my opinion, because it creates a space of no-freedom. But the underlying point is that someone who is negatively judging a natural function of their body is in fact repressing it.
Anyway, nothing Steve or anyone else says means anything at all about who you are. (By "you" I mean "one", not you personally.)