Originally Posted by Susie
I don't think that the people who said you were just in it for the sex also thought that it was wrong that you were just in it for the sex. Probably if they thought anything was "wrong" it was the possibility that you were trying to cover up your real motivation with some kind of "spiritual connection" smokescreen. The "wrong" part would have been if you weren't being honest and were trying to justify your move into polyamory with a bunch of b.s. about consciousness-raising when really you just wanted to get your rocks off with multiple partners.
To be honest, this is what I thought first. There were so many reasons given about polyamory (many of which made me think well why not just have more friends?) that it seemed like they were used as excuses when the real reason wasn't being said.
I don't think there's anything wrong with having sex for sex's sake, I'm sure many people agree. But yes, also for many people having sexual relationships with many partners at the same time doesn't seem appealing. Not making a moral judgement, not saying sex is wrong, just saying sharing that kind of intimacy with more than one partner at a time doesn't appeal to all.