I guess I'm one of those girls you're talking about who always has a good boyfriend. I used to be single and wanted a boyfriend a whole lot, and I couldn't understand why things never panned out for me. Then one day, I decided to stop caring about having a boyfriend; I started to focus on other things that made life meaningful to me. I guess that made me a more interesting person, because more guys started to notice me. And the thing was, I was so busy with the things I was passionate about, that I became pickier about who I dated. After all, if this guy was going to take time away from my interests, he better be good! So I raised my standards, and maybe that made guys even more interested, because it showed that I wasn't desperate.
So, feeling happy without a relationship made me more attractive, and raising my standards ensured that the guys I dated were good boyfriends who were worth staying with for a long time. That's my own experience, at least. I hope this helps. =)
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