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Originally Posted by Logan  Hey Steve
I like your direct approach. It's very powerful and cuts directly to the core.
However...
You talk about flirting and that you don't know whether the other person is seriously interested in you.
The point of flirting is to get to know each other a bit without needing to commit to each other. You get to know someone in a fun and light hearted context. Until here you could say that you aren't afraid of rejection so you don't need it.
But flirting does something else: It is CREATING attraction! Until now you probably just assumed that attraction is there or not. Maybe I'm misinterpreting you. You must see attraction is not just there or not, it can be created. Maybe you would call this game playing. One way of creating attraction is to flirt, another is to be direct, or another is to be dominant.
Now after attraction is there you can go to the next step in building an intimate relationship, which is the connection building. From now onwards I fully agree with you. |
When I'm with people face-to-face, I can usually read their "energy signature" so well that I know very quickly whether or not I feel any attraction to them, even if they haven't said a word.
I agree that attraction can be created. The question is how much work it will take. If I see that someone is energetically incompatible with me at first glance, I know it will take a lot of work to get a good connection going. I will probably not bother because it isn't worth the effort. I'll seek out someone else who naturally feels like a better fit for me, whereby creating attraction is nearly effortless, and it's also easier to sustain.
Flirting allows me to play around with our energetic connection. For example, I can bring a woman's energy up, or I can allow her to bring mine up as well. We can raise both our energies by sharing laughs together.
I rarely find a good match at a bar or club. I rarely see people in those places that I feel any attraction towards, and I usually wouldn't want to create attraction with them either. But at a raw foods festival or a spirituality conference, I find I'm a match for almost everyone, and creating attraction is largley effortless.
The skin cells of our bodies are covered with protein structures that act as tiny receivers/transmitters. Biologically speaking, we are constantly broadcasting subtle signals and receiving signals from the people around us as well. If you want to learn more about this, a great book to read is
The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton.