Lets look at it this way: If my wife wanted me to keep our marriage a secret for the rest of my life, that would certainly not go well with me and my ideal of openness. Dating discreetly is one thing, but trying to hide a marriage sounds very non committal to me. I have no interest of living in fear my entire life and switching the topic every time someone started talking about my spouse. If my wife refused to acknowledge our marriage openly (and is there any logical reason that would justify such behavior?) then I would certainly not hang around with her for long.
The only difference between my case and yours is that you've got two wives instead of one. So that means you've got two people who despite claiming that they love you and want to spend their lives with you are too ashamed of those around them to tell it to anyone. Or are they really just leaving an escape hatch for themselves in case they won't to break off the arrangement and settle for a "normal" life sometime in a few years?
Anyway, I would think about this if I were you.
I would be interested in creating a polygamous relationship myself sometime in my life, but I would want all of my partners to be open about it to their families. Living a lie is never worth it.
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